It’s been a year. I have just begun my second year of widowhood. In the grand scheme of things, my concerns are of little import. I have a home, I can to heat it, I can afford to eat, I can afford to go on holiday and run a car. So many around the world, and even in this country, do not have these things.
On the other hand, although I try to keep perspective, one always remembers what one has lost. After a year, the thing I miss most is the companionship. Having someone there to look out for me, and I for them. The simple things like a cup of tea appearing at my elbow while I’m on a Zoom meeting. Sure, I have friends and regular activities, but it’s not the same. But I’ve got through the first year, the hardest year. Another thought that surfaces when I’m about to buy something expensive – “He’d want you to be happy” – and I know this to be true.
Early morning snow
But enough of maudlin sentiment. I’m fine, really truly.
To continue with my travels, I arrived back in the UK in mid November and stayed with friends near Heathrow for a few days to reacclimatise. It was cloudy, cool, and sometimes rainy. Following this, I drove to Northamptonshire, where I stayed for the rest of the week, hoping to get a few things done like a boiler service and broadband installation. Neither occurred. The boiler service was cancelled at a half hour’s notice, on the first snowy day of winter. It was quite a surprise to open the curtains to falling snow! But it didn’t last, and was melted away by the afternoon.
Edinburgh Castle
Following the sojourn in Northamptonshire, I drove to Edinburgh to visit another friend. It was during the end of ‘Storm Bert’, which brought heavy rain, wind, and flooding to the UK. There was a strong tailwind; the car and I made a drunkard’s progress. But there was no chance of weaving around when I hopefully followed the satnav’s recommended detour. Although a saving of 20 minutes was shown, in the end it seemed to add that and more. It directed me through the backroads of rural Cheshire, down rutted and potholed single-track roads that were barely more than farm tracks. The difficulties came when other drivers, coming from the opposite direction, took the same detour. We pulled over so far that we scraped the hedges, with mere inches between the passing vehicles. It did not help that some of the vehicles were large mini-vans or huge SUVs. I made a New Year’s resolution early – Never Take A Satnav Detour Again.
Gloaming on the river, Wick
As you can see, there hasn’t been much progress on the gansey. I had hoped to have it done by now, but it never felt right to knit while I was visiting, unless my host also knit. However, it’s nearly finished now, just a few rows to go. It will be done by next week, when I’ll start swatching for the next.
Well, here we are again. I’ve returned to the cool damp climes of Britain, and apologise for the long break in entries, time slips away quickly when on holiday.
Now where were we . . . Ah yes, Woodstock. After Woodstock, I travelled east to Massachusetts to visit new acquaintances. We drove around central Massachusetts searching for elusive autumn colour one day. The colour wasn’t spectacular this year, but even without flaming red maples, there were muted tones of yellow, gold, and maroon. Another day, we went to the local spinning group, where we knit while the rest span on everything from drop spindles to tiny portable electric wheels.
View from Poet’s Tower, Greenfield, MA
The visit after this was to two friends in Connecticut, both of whom I met through another hobby, bamboo pipes. We took advantage of the sunny weather and picked apples at a nearby orchard. On another day, we played Christmas music on our pipes with one friend’s small, dedicated group of pipers. Over the dinner table, there were long, stimulating conversations. And if we weren’t doing piping or chatting, I was showing my friend how to use her first smartphone.
Apple picking in Connecticut
From central Connecticut, I travelled north into Vermont to visit another friend. We knitted and chatted as we watched old movies. Given that it was election season, we watched the movie ‘Dave’ one evening. The next evening, we watched two classic Frank Capra movies from the 1930s – ‘You Can’t Take It With You’ and ‘It Happened One Night’. It was a quiet visit; as well as knitting, I spent copious amounts of time working on an overdue newsletter. We went on an outing was to visit the longest covered bridge in Vermont. We drove over and back, then strolled down to the riverside to have a look. We also had a drive-by look at Rudyard Kipling’s house, Nilaqua.
Covered bridge, Vermont
The final visit was to long-time friend in western Massachusetts. She had just returned from a month-long trip to Norway, cruising the Arctic Circle on an artists’ residency. Highlights included seeing walruses and glaciers but alas no polar bears. During my visit, we drove to various viewpoints to see the scenery – there’s a lot of it about in western Massachusetts – and hiked up one hill to the viewing tower at the top. We also took in fabric and yarn shops, and one store that sold all things maple. One evening, we attended the local light opera company’s production of The Mikado, with a twist – it was set in Scotland, and re-titled ‘The McAdo’.
South Cape Beach, Cape Cod
Finally, the last stop was in Cape Cod for a few days before getting the bus to the airport. The flight was slightly bumpy but uneventful. I had hoped to get lots of knitting done, but because it was a night flight the cabin lights were dimmed too much to knit.
I have made erratic but steady progress on the gansey. The first sleeve is finished, and I’ve just started the cuff on the second sleeve. The first sleeve doesn’t exactly match the first. There was a miscount of stitches on the first sleeve, and I tried to match that number on the second. This means that the decreases have variable numbers of rows between them. But once it’s blocked, I am hoping it won’t be obvious.
Ah, Kentucky. If you’ve ever spent a week with three greyhounds and two cats, you’ll have an inkling of the enjoyable time I had in the bluegrass state. The greyhounds would greet me each morning as I came down the stairs, grinning, barking, bouncing with excitement. And greyhounds do grin – it’s a quick baring of the teeth that is unnerving at first, but it only means they’re happy to see you. And, like many dogs, they’re mischievous scamps as well. Being so tall, they can lay their chins on the table, and equally they can reach about anything that’s left on the counter. I was reminded of the episode of The Simpsons where the family acquires a litter of greyhound puppies. Homer sits on the sofa trying to eat a bag of crisps, and each time he gets one to his mouth, a puppy leaps up and snatches it away. The cats, of course, were more circumspect. One, a heavyweight of the cat world, would simply lean on me as I sat on the bed, and I knew I wouldn’t be going anywhere for a while.
Oyster farm, Sandwich, MA
After a relaxing week in Kentucky, I travelled to my home state of Massachusetts, flying south to Charlotte, North Carolina and then to Boston’s Logan Airport. I made the mistake of misjudging the size of Charlotte airport from the schematic on their website. The terminus is massive. The inbound flight landed at one end and the onward flight left from the other. A sign at the gate indicated it would take 24 minutes to walk the distance. I made it in about 20, dodging amongst the crowds of people sauntering alongside the inoperative moving walkways. The terminal is undergoing renovation, which made it seem even busier.
Halloween decorations near Woodstock
I was fortunate to have a window seat, and spent part of the journey trying to figure out where we were. When we flew over the Chesapeake, I had a pretty good idea. Soon thereafter, we flew over New York City, distinctive with its tall buildings and the green rectangle of Central Park. Then across Connecticut and Massachusetts, where I could see Boston harbour in the far distance, before the plane changed course. As the plane started to descend, I could also see that the trees were turning the oranges, yellows, and golds of autumn.
‘Olana’, home of artist Frederic Edwin Church
A few days later, I set off for Woodstock, New York to visit an old friend who had recently moved there from Cape Cod. Woodstock has long been known for its artists’ colonies, but most people associate it nowadays with the music festival of 1969, which actually took place 60 miles away in Bethel, NY. Today’s Woodstock retains a quaint air, with lots of funky little shops and a hippy vibe.
View of the Quabbin Reservoir, Massachusetts
As you can see, reasonable progress has been made on the sleeve. The measurements I have for the sleeve seem far too long, so I’m hedging my bets and making it shorter with Gordon’s standard six-inch cuff. I fully accept that if the sleeves are too short, I’ll need to undo the ribbing and lengthen them.
This past week has been less fraught and adventuresome. The week in Northamptonshire was spent indoors, apart from shutting the front gate one day and putting out the bin another. Even though the weather was beautiful at times – warm, white fluffy clouds, sunshine – the Covid sucked all spare energy.
By Sunday, still testing positive for Covid, it was obvious that the bamboo pipe course would be expunged from the calendar. The next planned activity was a visit to friends in Maidenhead, prior to flying out of Heathrow. They were still happy to welcome me, despite still testing positive. The next day, Monday, I scurried around the house, gathering things together, packing, unpacking, repacking, deciding to leave things behind, changing my mind, changing it again, and finally making decisions that would leave my suitcase only marginally lighter. I am sure I’ll be sick of the sight of all my clothing by the end of the trip, if I haven’t ‘outgrown’ them.
Herrington Lake, KY
The few days in Maidenhead were restful and sociable. I met up with another friend who had been to the pipe course. We had planned months ago to travel to the States together, where I would visit her in Kentucky. I’ve never been to ol’ Kentucky and welcomed the chance to see somewhere new. We didn’t do Maidenhead justice; the weather was too showery and cool to spend time wandering. And besides, she was exhausted after the course and I was recovering from Covid.
Ice houses, Henry Clay Estate
We arrived in Kentucky in early evening, after a long day’s travel. Marvel of marvels, there was a cloudless sky with an unfamiliar white orb. After a short drive, I met the rest of the ‘family’ – three excited, friendly greyhounds and two laid-back cats. The greyhounds are my new best friends, and one of the cats has decided the guest bed is the best place to be.
Osage Oranges
The night before heading to Maidenhead, I grasped the gansey nettle and unravelled the sleeve to a few rows above the pick-up row. There was no point making the agony worse by having to pick up the stitches again. The plan was to decrease on the first pattern row. How had I got into this hole in the first place? Simply put, I had ignored my calculations and instead picked up a reasonable three stitches every four rows. This yielded 144 stitches instead of the calculated 128 (not including the gusset stitches). It’s not an enormous difference, and I should have known better. They say you learn by experience, but sometimes one wonders . . .
The steps to the lake
As you can see in the photo, due to lots more of time spent on a plane, I have been able to catch up and overtake the point where the sleeve was frogged. Nearly the entire transatlantic flight was spent knitting, and more was accomplished during a three-hour layover before the next flight. And then I put it down as I had had enough!
This week’s blog nearly writes itself. It’s been a trip full of adventures, and I’ve only been away a week.
Within five minutes of leaving home, I’d scraped the side of the car. I stopped at the nearest pillar box to post a letter. The side road narrows at one point, and I’d odged over to let another car past. Crunch crumple! I’d scraped the car against the front corner of a parked one. The damage isn’t too bad, and the other car looked to have only superficial damage, but you never can tell. Being honest, I asked some folk loading their car if they knew who the owner was. They pointed out a nearby house, I rang the bell and apologised profusely. We exchanged details, and, talking sternly to myself, I set off again and vowed to pay more attention.
Seat with a view
After an overnight stop in Edinburgh, I continued to Northamptonshire to stay a few days at the family manse. On arriving, I noticed that some lights on timers were not on. Perhaps there had been a power cut, I thought. When I got into the house, the overhead lights worked, but anything plugged into a socket did not. While searching for the fuse box, I noticed that the timer for the heating and hot water was also not working. Eventually I found the fuse box, and by switching them on and off one by one, I found the switch for the residual current device. The sockets and controller were now working.
Next, the bathroom floor was littered with dead flies, with dozens of live ones on the window. It is that time of year in the countryside when flies come in to hibernate. They buzz sluggishly then try to hide in the windows’ crevices. It reminded me of a little poem of my dad’s, who trained as an electrical engineer:
Alternating current pie First a currant, then a fly Underneath the crust they lie, Alternating current pie.
Later, car unloaded, timers reset and dinner consumed, I remembered there was a huge chest freezer in the basement. Rivulets of water trickled off as I opened the lid. It had completely defrosted. Thankfully, nothing had obviously started to rot. Fortunately, the freezer had already been partly cleared. The most sensible course was to refreeze it and empty it another time.
Finally, on Monday I developed flu-like symptoms. I was due to go to a bamboo pipe course in the south of England a few days later. As a precautionary measure, I took a Covid test and, yes, you’ve guessed it, it came up positive. I contacted the organiser, and we agreed that I should not attend until I had a negative test. Although disappointed not to see my friends, I fully understand.
Saturday Fishermen by the canal
Because of the travel and then illness, I have not even looked at the gansey for the past week. When I packed it, the sleeve was giving me some concerns. It looked quite baggy. Since then, I have compared it to another gansey; the sleeve is too big, and needs redoing. I would rather reknit than have balloon sleeves. And because of fewer stitches, it’ll be quicker to knit the second time. Look for the silver lining.
It’s been a year. I have just begun my second year of widowhood. In the grand scheme of things, my concerns are of little import. I have a home, I can to heat it, I can afford to eat, I can afford to go on holiday and run a car. So many around the world, and even in this country, do not have these things. 
